Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Voices In Your Head

In life, it often feels as if we are fighting a battle that we cannot win. Everywhere we turn there is something or someone that makes us feel inferior or like we are not good enough. And if you try to say you've never felt that way at some point, then you are lying to yourself. Sorry to be blunt, but it's true. We all have different insecurities which overtake who we are and how we feel at times throughout our lives. Some of us are better at quieting those voices in our head, then others, however, simply quieting them is not enough. We have to truly believe in ourselves and then, only then can they be overcome. 

As I was driving in the car over this past weekend I heard the song "Try" by Colbie Caillat. I mean it wasn't the first time I have ever listened to this song, but it is the first time I have really heard it. 


I'm not sure if it was because I was in the car by myself or the fact that subconsciously I needed what the song had to offer, nevertheless, I couldn't be more thankful that the lyrics stuck out to me. 

The song lists stereotypes in today's world that make us think certain things and act various ways:

  • Put your make-up on
  • Get your nails done
  • Curl your hair
  • Run the extra mile
  • Keep it slim 
  • Get your sexy on
  • Don't be shy, girl, take it off
  • Get your shopping on
  • Max your credit cards
  • You don't have to choose, buy it all

When I looked up the lyrics later on and saw these all written out it hit me how many things we think we have to do to make us appear more beautiful or how we feel we have to act to keep up or what we do to try to fit in. Some of these things listed, we do because we personally enjoy them, but with others comes the feeling of pressure to be liked. I myself get my nails done because I enjoy doing so as well as any time I paint my nails within 2 days they chip so out of convenience it is easier just to get them done. Although when I was in high school, I felt as if I needed to purchase certain clothes to "stay in the in". 

The chorus of the song speaks to how we don't have to conform, all we have to do is get up and be us.

You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to, give it all away

You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing

You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to bend until you break
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing

-and my favorite 4 lines of the song being-

Wait a second,
Why, should you care, what they think of you
When you're all alone, by yourself, do you like you?
Do you like you?

What matters most in life is if we are happy with who we are, on the inside. It is not if other people are happy with what we look like on the outside. We have to stop and think if the things we do are for ourselves or for the perception of others. Unfortunately, this is not something that we can flip on a switch...it will take time and it will not always be easy. Honestly, even if we hit the point where we feel 100% secure with ourselves there's still the chance we will have moments of doubt.


Just do yourself a favor and make sure when you're all alone, you like you. 
Don't let any voices in your head tell you otherwise.

Questions of the Day:
1) Is there a specific stereotype you've ever fallen into trying to follow?
2) What things have helped you quiet the voices in your head?
3) Which songs do you know that portray a similar message?

❤ Nichole 

If you haven't heard the song before and or if you could use the reminder that you are perfect the way you are be sure to listen below. The video is also, well, amazing. I got chills when I first watched it. 


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15 comments:

  1. I love this! You should always stay true to yourself and who you are! You are unique and perfect any way you want to be!

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  2. I love this song! The lyrics are so great. xo

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    1. It's became one of my favorites very quickly. And I always listen to it when I need a little self-inspiration/pick me up!

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  3. I've missed your posts and I loved reading this one! I haven't heard that song in such a long time but it's such a beautiful message-- thank you for the reminder.

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  4. Oh my gosh. I heard this song for the first time a few days ago and I had no idea who sang it! The lyrics are beautiful. As far as stereotypes I've fallen into...I'm not sure there is one in particular, but in college I really struggled with disordered eating and was obsessed with being thin. One of the things my therapist made me do was write down all the compliments I received or all the things I was good at that had nothing to do with the way I looked. I always think about that when I'm struggling. it really helped me to understand my worth beyond the superficial.

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    1. First off, you are beautiful xo. Second, I really like that exercise. It could work for so many things - self affirmation really do help because it makes you think as compared to someone saying it to you and it one in ear and out the other because you don't believe it fully etc.

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  5. I love this song and the video too. I struggle not to wear makeup and feel comfortable in my own skin, but I'm getting better at it. That sheen of Chanel that covers my face daily is definitely a crutch. Loved the post! xoxo, ganeeban

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    1. Thank you! That one is one that is put in front of us so often it's hard to get away from it. It finally hit me last year in a media comm class how much of what we see daily is fake. In s film we watched it showed how done ads we see aren't even real people, the faces are bits and pieces of all different people.. But yet we believe it's what we have to match, but we don't. Just take it day by day<3

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  6. This was actually the first time I heard that song, and omigosh... I adore it. Thanks so much for introducing me to it :) I think the best way to quieten those voices is to counteract them with positive ones of your own. It's sad that it often feels so natural to our ourselves down -- almost like we're expected to do it -- but making that conscious effort really does change things in the long run.

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    1. I'm so glad I was s me to introduce you to the song! It is beautifully wonderful. I agree, counteracting those voices is a great way to quiet them. But like you said it takes the conscious effort to do it which at times can be difficult, but taking the time to stop and tell yourself otherwise and or something else positive about who you are in that moment will leave you feeling happier all around. If we all worked to make a habit of it, it would just become natural!

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  7. I love this song! I try to be the confident, sassy girl everyone else around me seems to be, but that´s just not me. I´m the only single girl in my group of friends right now, so I´m trying to "put myself outthere", but it just doesn´t work while I´m pretending to be someone who I´m not. I shoould just trust the process and be myself, even if it´s hard sometimes.
    Love all of the comments :)

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    1. Very much so. And although sometimes easier said then done, but like you said it doesn't work pretending to be someone else. Itll also help you to find the right person to be apart of your life because you'll be happier with the person who likes you for you.

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