Hey all! Today is the last day of formal classes in my undergraduate career! Say what?!?! Before I start rambling about that though, let's get to the post.
I know so many amazing people with much potential who end up digging their own hole, so to speak, because of comparing themselves to society. We all have days where we don't feel we look good, we don't feel we are doing anything in life or whatever else it may be. That is normal. That is human. But, feeling those ways because you are busy equating yourself to the things around you is not healthy. You then are causing your own damage.
Growing up I was always comparing myself to others. And every time I got done doing so I would end up back to the same result; I can/will never be that! My confidence was basically non-existent because of it. I like to think I did a good job of hiding it however, I was self-conscious. Why? For what?
I thought that what I was seeing was real life and well, if that was real life then I truly was missing a lot. Yet, what I really was missing was common sense. 99% of the time I was seeing people at their best. I was looking to the TV where people are styled in their every move. All the while comparing it to my worst. Forgetting; no one is perfect, no one is flawless.
I was a sophomore in college before the common sense truly set in. It was while I was in a marketing class. I was instructed to watch a video called "Killing Us Softly." I was speechless after watching this video. It does an incredible job of explaining that what we see is not accurate. Even though by this point in life I was a little better about it, after watching I instantly pledged to myself to stop comparing who I was to the society around.
One of my biggest takeaways from the video was; by idolizing magazines and or advertisements we are choosing to set ourselves up for failure. Most of what we see is either computer generated or photoshopped in some way. No amount of make-up or wrinkle cream can work that kind of magic.
But, they shouldn't have to.
We are all special in our own way. If we were supposed to look like one another then we already would. So, we need to stop comparing ourselves to others and start accepting who we are. I can promise you if you start accepting who you are, you will personally be so much happier. And your personal happiness will make you the most beautiful you could ever be.
Questions of the Day
1) Have you struggled with comparison?
2) What are your thoughts/opinions on this all?
3) Do you know of videos similar to "Killing Us Softly?"
❤ Nichole ❤